Every once in a while I'm caught off guard when I realize I'm conversing with the same person from the past who has changed their name. This is normally off putting, sorry to say.
I'm not particularly bothered by it, but I don't entirely understand it. I'm talysman here and urbeatle on some other places (because "talysman" was somehow taken) and was "Talysman the Ur-Beatle" back in the BBS days. I never change.
I'm guilty of that, I'm sorry to say. I was trying to consolidate my online ID's (DuBeers and Piper) under one name for my own convenience. I never really stopped to consider it may be a slight to some folks. My sincere apologies. I put "Cameron DuBeers" below my picture to help out others who feel the same way.
Ah, I just now noticed that. That makes you more familiar!
Well guys, "off putting" was meant to imply a mild disagreeable reaction, not something I would hang on to or dwell on. If it was more than that I would have used more colorful language.
I'm not intending to call anyone out, either. No one has to explain themselves to me. I'm not even telling others that they have to agree. I'm simply expressing that it leaves me with the feeling that they might be a disingenuous person. Perhaps it might be helpful for some to think about.
Feelings are like that. They are what they are, often visceral responses. So there's no point in invalidating them. You can disagree with a person's opinion. You can argue against wrong thinking. But you can't tell another person what or how they feel.
"War is a game which were their subjects wise, kings would not play at."
"War does not determine who is right- only who is left."
In the interest of full disclosure, because I just "unveiled" over at the Comeback Inn, and will likely be less available in the coming year:
You usually find me under two main nicknames, "Rafael" (which is, of course, my real name), and "Le Noir Faineant" (as per Walter Scott's "Ivanhoe"). Lately, you'll also find me on a few places as "Rowell the Blade" (the name of my longest-running PC). I've had others in the past, but that would be about at least ten years removed from today; "Ivid" was one, for a long time, as long as the WotC boards were active, and I was "Desdichado" (because I really, really love "Ivanhoe") on several horror-themed boards in the mid-2000s. Nothing of this should come as a surprise, though. I have always been "Rafe".
I guess it's normal that one transitions from nickname to nickname, over time, especially with "artificial" and fantasy names; it's not normal to do so with the intention to deceive, though, and I doubt that most of you do so with that intention in mind.
My general advice is: Try to communicate as you would in real life, and don't try to play sort of a character. Especially in the oldschool community, many people are seemingly competing about who is the most "truest" oldschool player or DM; just, please, everybody, don't. Because if you do, you contribute to the establishment of a conversational frame that is both exceptionally stupid, and toxic at the same time. Communication, of the kind that we do here is mostly based on the comparison of individual and very subjective experiences; as soon as it degenerates into some sort of "gonzo virtue signaling", it simply fails.
"Conspiracies", like the one we faced last year, they happen: Mainly, it boils down to people trying to aggressively acquire potential customers by declaring their product or operation a "virtue". (See above.) This is very easy to do in our particular case, because we are a community that defines by shared tastes. - And this is also why it's so important to "keep things real": The less we base our communication on acquired "virtues", and more on actual practical experiences, the less room we give to people who seek basically nothing but an unfair advantage.
- So much, so philosophical. Let's hope that in 2018, we'll all stick together; roleplaying is a social hobby. By nature, it's inclusive. So, let's do that.
"We few, we happy few, we band of brothers; for he today that rolls the dice with me shall be my brother. Be he ne'er so vile, this fact shall gentle his condition."
- Or, well, something. Poor Shakespeare, what I just did to him. You get what I am saying.